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  "They either get really attached and almost codependent or preoccupied in the relationship because they just want the love and affirmation all the time," she said. "These are the people that need to hear 'I love you' a lot." They don't really live in the moment, but instead crave predictability, placing a lot of high hopes on their partner and getting attached to their potential. They expect their relationship to define them, rescue them, or complete them, and cling to their partner co- dependently , because they are afraid of being abandoned. In an attempt to alleviate their relationship anxiety, they sometimes play games in their relationship to get attention. This can be acting out, trying to make their partner jealous, or withdrawing from the relationship. Avoidant-dismissive and fearful-avoidant